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Deceivers deceived by Ashley Madison Bots

Everything on the internet is an illusion that we give meaning. I read an infuriating Facebook post while you read the same post and cheer. Likewise with Ashley Madison. Users of internet sexuality allow it to fill a need that it wasn't meant to fill. Perhaps admiration, acceptance or belonging is the issue the human illusion drug is to meet. The leaders of Ashley Madison know this. They used it to make millions. 

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Ashley Madison and the Clergy

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"Still, clergy are human and prone to human error. That does not mean, however, that all clergy are having affairs or misusing their positions for financial gain or other purposes that are in conflict with their call to ministry.

The real tragedy is the hypocrisy that so many clergy engage in. Clergy often present themselves as somehow more perfect or more holy than the average parishioner. This is a terrible mistake. We are all flawed."

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Coming soon, Betrayed and Betrayer by Ben and Ann Wilson

 


From The Head To The Heart

Couples who survive an affair make a shift from the head to the heart leading to a deeper emotional connection. The fuel for this journey is pain stopping many dead in their boots. But to those who persevere rich freedom in relationship envelops their lives. May today be a day you experience more of that freedom.

Enjoy the song Head to the Heart by United Pursuit. Hat tip to Nashville songwriter and counselor extraordinaire, Brian Harvey for bringing this song to my attention. 

 

I open up to you

This love that makes me new

Oh may my heart receive

This love that carries me

From the head to the heart

You take me on a journey

Of letting go

And getting lost in you

From the head to the heart

You take me on a journey

Of letting go

And getting lost in you

My heart is open wide

I will receive your light

You give me faith like a child

In you my heart runs wild

Cuz there’s no shame

In looking like a fool

When I give you what I can’t keep

To take a hold of you

There’s no shame

In looking like a fool

When I give you what I can’t keep

To take a hold of you

More than words

More than good ideas

I found your love in the open fields 

From the head to the heart

You take me on a journey

Of letting go

And getting lost in you

From the head to the heart

You take me on a journey

Of letting go

And getting lost in you

There’s no shame

In looking like a fool

When I give you what I can’t keep

To take a hold of you

There’s no shame

In looking like a fool

When I give you what I cant keep

To take a hold of you

And take a hold of you


Hide Your Damned Head Darryl Dawkins

Some of my posts have a Slumdog Millionaire quality. By that I mean they are full of meaningless cultural references that shaped me. This tribute I post for my dad each year has a reference to Darryl Dawkins and power jams when playing for the Sixers with Dr. J. RIP on Lovetron Darryl. 

12.24.10 Happy Birthday Dad.
12.24.09 Happy Birthday Dad.  

12.23.08.  Happy Birthday again Dad.   GreatPebble Beach 18 Dad winning the MGA Father/Son Super Senior with you this year at Porto Cima.   

That's him out of the front bunker on 18 at Pebble Beach last March with Stillwater Cove in the background. 

My Dad's birthday is December 24th.  It's kinda hard to have a real special birthday when that guy named Jesus also had one the next day every year. :)  I gave this to my dad on Father's Day this year.  Thanks Dad.  Happy Birthday.

How Me and Seve whooped Wally and the Barefoot Boy: A tribute to my father

 

It was a gorgeous early June day near the Rocky Mountain foothills. I enjoyed the crispness of the air, the lack of humidity and the southern big sky view from my back deck. I thought it made a great day for grilling and wanted something top of the line so I headed to Tony’s Specialty Meats. At Tony’s I looked through the glass at swordfish, crab, salmon and continued moving to my left to the beef. I saw the Filet Mignon. $14.99 per lb. I gasped.

 

In the early eighties, my dad and I used to win filets playing in golf tournaments in Boonville, Missouri. They came in boxes of twenty. You won four boxes per person for 1st, three for 2nd, two for 3rd, one for 4th and maybe a dozen balls for 5th. I gasped at the price of filets in Tony’s because my wife and I used to use those filets for stew meat! In our twenties, in our naiveté, we were living the high life in our little rented red house on a slab.

Usually the primary competition from Boonville consisted of Wally and the Barefoot Boy. Wally was a forty-something, portly, pear-shaped man who liked his bourbon and coke when he played. He was easy going with a fluid, smooth golf swing.

 

The Barefoot Boy was a little younger and taller and shoeless and scarier. He was about 6’5” and strong. Imagine Hulk Hogan, his Fu-Manchu, with brown hair and dark prescription sunglasses. That was the Barefoot Boy. The Barefoot Boy put the F-U in Fu-Manchu. His drink of choice was Miller beer in 8 oz., pony size bottles. At some point the men in Boonville got tired of getting their butts kicked by him on the golf course so they passed a rule that shoes had to be worn by all players. He got the thinnest pair of moccasins he could find and kept on playing. Wally and the Barefoot Boy were both generally good company to tour the greens.

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How Good Men Can End Up on Ashley Madison

Here is my friend, Michael Cusick's story. He was busted open 21 years ago but knows if there had been Ashley Madison in the day he most likely would have been there. A computer wasn't hacked yet he was terrified when he saw the headline, FBI Raids Escort Service. 

I have the privilege of staffing Michael's intensives for men a couple times a year. If you need help with sexual compulsion and experiencing freedom join us Dec. 3rd-6th. 

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